Author Archives: Jennifer Smith

Sociopaths and Sex: There is No Intimacy

The best sex ever. No sex at all.
Painful torturous sex.
You sleep in one room, they’re in another.
Refusal to wear condoms. No eye contact…
Despair.

Sociopaths and sex. This is a profoundly confusing element of the true love scam. For some, they find the sex better than any they’ve ever had. For most, this goes south just like all the other pieces of the entrapment by a pathological person in what we first perceive and believe to be a relationship with someone normal.

Naturally, as normal people embarking on a relationship, sex is on the list of things that matter most to establish and maintain a relationship.

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Gaslighting: The Truth

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These creatures infamously talk up a storm.
It’s a trademark of a narcissist or sociopath.
Contact is their full-time work to ensnare,
entrap, and keep prey locked in place.

Gaslighting. That confusing babble that oozes from their gobs nonstop. This tirade of conflicting and hurtful and ridiculous nonsense, unfortunately, spins us up off our feet and into a frenzy of trying to “talk about it”. We want to talk it out and resolve their concerns. So kind of us; so normal.

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Narcissist and Supply: Predator and Prey

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It’s normal to trust, believe and care.
It’s 100% abnormal not to.
We can’t understand abnormal by looking at it from normal.
So, let’s look at it for their side without our rose-colored glasses.

Narcissistic people who are in the zone of pathological narcissism know that they don’t have relationships. Even though they step up to us with this mesmerizing zinger, I’ve never met anyone like you before. They know they’re not stepping into a real relationship. We think they are; that we are.

The thing is, they aren’t saying what we think they’re saying. We naturally hear one thing, but they mean another. They don’t want a relationship, not even when they say, you’re my soulmate. Want to know why this is…?

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Recovery Coaching: A Guided Tour from Hell to Whole

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What is recovery coaching with me like? What do we do? What’s my approach..? I’m asked these or similar questions sometimes and the simple answer is: we start where you are and go from their. Every session is unique to the person I’m speaking with.

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10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

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Healthy relationships are the thing that makes life joyful.
A good life is all about healthy relationships.

A Healthy Relationship Moves at a Comfortable Pace

What is the purpose of being in a realtionship? I’d venture to say that relationships are meant to be enjoyable and to enhance our lives. Us normal human beings are wired ot be in relationships i=with family groups, friends, neighbors and then the heart of them all, romantic relationships. It’s normal to want to have a significant someone in our lives!

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Can You Smell a Narcissist?

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Can we smell a narcissist?
Does the sociopath have a certain aroma?
As their abnormal brain affects their physiology…
how does it show up?

These are entirely different “humans”. The way they think, speak, and behave is not a “choice”. It’s instinctive. Their fundamental “self” is wired to use and take and get whatever they need and want. This “self” is pathological… meaning they’re driven by their brains which are not normal, yet are quite specific.

Can you smell a narcissist or sociopath?

I wonder, since the sociopath’s abnormal brain affects their physiology how does this show up in all parts of their being? We know a lot of the things that they each have in common as creatures of this sort. (Or the “narcissist’s” if you’re on that terminology even with all it’s pitfalls and misconceptions.)

They’re fundamentally and pathologically identical monster to monster.

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Can You Smell a Sociopath?

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Can you smell a sociopath?
Does a narcissist have a certain aroma?
As their abnormal brain affects their physiology…
how does it show up?

I wonder since the sociopath’s abnormal brain affects their physiology how does this show up in all parts of their being? We know a lot of the things that they each have in common as creatures of this sort.

They’re fundamentally and almost thoroughly identical pathological beast to pathological monster. For example, we know in their heads lies are real and real is made up.

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Boundaries: Who Needs Them?

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Boundaries, rules, etiquette, manners,
behavior we expect and approve and accept.
They’ve been here in societies and cultures forever.
Why are we suddenly talking about “boundaries”?
And shaming some for not “having boundaries”
meant to stop others from bad behavior?

Let’s talk about “boundaries”. This is another current term and concept that drives me bonkers. Here’s why: “boundaries” is a concept that has come up only relatively recently. Its appearance is a piece of the human attempt to figure out and manage those who don’t heed natural and normal boundaries.

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PTSD: Dreams, Nightmares and Healing

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PTSD can bring nightmares and dreams.
As scary as some of them are…
Rest assured everything about our bodies is on our side,
including our subconscious sleeping mind.

PTSD, dreams, nightmares… To sleep, perchance to dream… After these hijackings we look to sleep as a respite from all the daytime whirling thoughts. Our bodies need more sleep. Sleep as much as your bodies desires as you heal and extract them from your bones.

During PTSD we want to sleep and sleep and sleep. And we need to. We aren’t being lazy, or avoiding moving on; we are healing and we are moving on. – All that extra sleep heals PTSD and is purposeful. Not only our our bodies designed to heal us in sleep, those dreams we have are on our side as well.

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No Contact: Leaving a Pathological Parasite

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No-contact is outside our comfort zone.
It’s a new skill that our
wellbeing depends on.

No contact is extremely unnatural and feels completely weird. Cutting someone off isn’t our “normal”. Normal people don’t just ghost. As normal limbic-brained humans, our biological wiring compels us to connect and care.

There’s a deep internal connection thing that goes on spontaneously between ourselves and others. It isn’t easy for us to drop someone like a hot potato.