We’d like to believe
sociopaths love their kids.
Would this be a mistake at the expense
of any gorgeous children in their clutches?
Can narcissistic sociopaths love their kids? (every sociopath is 100% narcissistic.) We’d certainly like to think every parent loves their children. When a sociopath ensnares us, and we’re in the throes of getting away and trying to put together what we were dragged through, it’s Twilight Zone enough to absorb the idea that they did’t love us, let alone pondering if sociopaths love their kids or not.
But we see the kids forgotten, abused, ordered around, yelled at, manipulated, and hurt, and It’s a question we have to ask and get the real answer to.
Everything a narcissist aka a sociopath does has a specific reason. Their motivation and reasons for what they say and what they do are rooted in their very simplistic way of looking at life. – When we understand this, why this is, and what this is, we win.
Do Sociopaths Love Their Kids?
Any sociopath can observe that we normal people think having kids is the normal and expected thing to do, and that we cherish kids. The (narcissist) sociopath is all about attempts to get others to believe they’re normal so they can make use of us, and they prefer us to think they’re really great as well. With that agenda, what better way than to come across as someone who adores kids?
As amazing and lovable as our kids are, no matter how much we love them – the sociopath does not love their kids. Most sociopaths simply abandon their kids…or eventually, do so. As horrible as this sounds: this is the best situation for you and the children.
As hard as it is, please realize, that we’re lucky if they walk away and are never heard from again. No child benefits from a sociopath hanging around in their lives.
Remember, sociopaths fake all caring and any seemingly loving emotions. They really and truly feel none of it. They do pretend to care about kids… it can seem real through our hopeful view of things.
The very bizarre truth is that narcissistic sociopaths love no one. Sociopaths do not love their kids. The person you’re thinking of as a narcissist does not love their kids. They do use their kids just as they’re using us and anyone else who crosses their path.
What would getting your kids safely away mean to you?
Why Do Sociopaths Act Like They Love Their Kids?
Narcissists aka sociopaths do and say all they do and say in order to get what they want. That’s truly their only inspiration. A pathological user (a narcissist) a sociopath uses any means they can think of in order to get what they want, to get away with what they do, and to maintain a facade of a “good reputation” as they do it and in the aftermath.
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Sociopaths Pretend to Love Their Children
So, as part seem normal and like a great person – in order to continue getting away with their bad behavior and cover what they really think and feel… a part of their persona is to pretend to love their kids, especially when other people are watching. They put on this show in an effort to convince someone else that they’re a great person, and normal.
Posing as a loving parent is meant to hook or to influence other’s opinions of them in a positive way. Sociopaths (narcissists) do nothing genuinely kind or caring for their kids. the kids are a tool, an object just as adults are.
Most people don’t do bad things to children. There’s no end to what a sociopath might do since they’re without stops, boundaries or limits because of the limited functionality of their brains.
Since narc-predators (sociopaths) make no caring connection to any living being, they also have no conscience. Kids, just as adults and all others, are seen as if they’re paper doll cutouts to make use of as they desire…little toys laid out on the floor.
They truly believe that every “toy” belongs to them. That each thing and each person is theirs to take. That’s a human, a thing, the pot of gold at the end of someone else’s rainbow… The antisocial psychopath has no concern for what we consider “right and wrong.”
A parent without a conscience does not and cannot love their kids. A being that makes no connection, no positive bonds, has no humanity cannot parent in any way. They do and only cause harm to their children they are in contact with.
There Are No Limits to Their Lack of Humanity
Please don’t panic, but do consider the worst of the worst as far as harm to children from a sociopath parent, neighbor, or friend.
To a sociopath, kids are fair game. Lots of things in life can change, but this cannot. For a sociopath, the dynamics between a child and themselves are fundamentally no different than the dynamics between a sociopath and an adult. The sociopath’s abnormal brain leaves them stuck this way. They can be nothing else.
Appearing Normal vs. Being Normal
Antisocial psychopaths aka sociopaths do, however, observe that in the normal people’s world, our world, there’s a vast difference between how we act towards a child versus how we behave towards an adult.
They do know that in order to appear as normal they too must seem to know this difference. They try to mimic it along with everything else about us. however, they’re really, really bad at this one. this. They slip-up in shocking and obvious ways, and fail miserably at it just as they do with everything else.
Sociopaths have no love for anyone. They have different biology, a different brain. They have no idea what the sensation of love feels like.
Sociopaths (Narcissists) Act Like They Love Their Kids
Sociopaths pretend to love their kids when the child has a price tag. This can be to get child support or to get out of paying it.
Male sociopaths go to court to get their kids to get out of a court order to pay child support. Which is incredibly ridiculous, since they don’t pay child support even when it is court-ordered except under one circumstance.
Female Sociopaths Are The Same As Male Sociopaths
Female sociopaths (narcissists) are not above claiming false domestic violence and abuse so they can take the kids. Their goal is naturally as for any narcissistic sociopath to look like a good and normal person, but further, it’s to get spousal and child maintenance. Female sociopaths do not love their kids. – Even when you’re calling them a narcissist but they’re really a sociopath.
Sociopaths -narcissists- are simplistic, predictable and limited creatures. Sociopaths don’t love or want their children – unless there’s something to gain by acting like they love their kids they usually walk away and that’s a good thins.
Know we can turn a sociopath’s weakness and limitations – the sociopath’s deep and constant fear and fragile, house-of-cards existence – to our advantage. Save the children. Live again.
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The sociopath I was engaged to had full custody of his kids. Due to their mother not being stable. He paid for all of their private schools. He would be there when they were sick, and for most of their sporting events. I believe he uses his kids, but cares for them. Love them??
Sociopaths lie about everything – always – whatever they tell us is not truth. Whatever we believe we know about them is not truth. – Not by a million shocking miles. That as the basis, unless you spoke with the kids mom or saw legal documentation about the kids mom – she is very likely not unstable; if she is unstable – he put her in that condition from the trauma. (“unstable” happens to be a favorite “smear” that sociopaths use about previous targets. Every person in a sociopath’s life is a target, prey – a “mark”, a victim.) Unless you saw the checks he wrote each term or semester, endorsed by the school master and in the school’s bank account – he didn’t pay for the school fees. – And unless you were also there with him when the kids were sick and also with him at all their sporting events – he wasn’t there. — No, not even because a few photos of him with one of the kids at a school ballgame were on his Facebook page. That means absolutely zero – photo planting is a favorite trick of sociopaths. – There are a few reasons a sociopath might try to get “full custody” of their kids; all these reasons are connected to the sociopath preventing themselves from being exposed for what they are. – Again though, unless you’re at the home with them 24/7, or saw the legal document signed by a Judge giving him custody – he doesn’t have “full custody” – maybe not any custody. – Sociopaths top choice and habitual life pattern – for every sociopath – is to abandon their kids. – No sociopath loves or cares for anyone. They are biologically incapable of this. It is not possible. They love or care for absolutely no one. — If by chance this man is a Narcissist (NPD) rather than a Sociopath (ASPD or AP) then there may be some wiggle room for paying the occasional school fee and attending the odd sports event and caring in his limited and painful way for the children. — Sociopaths have an abnormal brain that makes their behavior, traits, tactics, tricks and thinking extremely limited and predictable and specific.
8 years ago I had this woman with high school kids and a four-year-old approach me at the church.
She told me she was a believer in Christ and had problems with her visa because the four year old have been born in America and was sick after the birth. I love kids and Families I have older kids of my own, I met the family, they seemed fairly okay.
About 2 months ago she received her citizenship our relationship had been going downhill for a while in fact it was always a little funny. One day she started this argument or I couldn’t win and I was accusing her supposedly and she was going to call the police. So I called a friend of mine from church and he brought his pickup truck and I threw stuff in it and moved to a friend of mine’s house. We’re still communicating a little bit but whatever she says she seems to procrastinate.
Early on in the relationship she told me we can have the kids take care of us, I told her I have kids and I don’t expect them to take care of me.
When I had first met her I found the kids one morning cleaning the interior of my car obsessively. In fact she sometimes obsessively cleans the bedroom until after midnight. I told her I better way to get to know the kids would be to go out to a dinner or breakfast and talk to them.
During the eight years I raised the four year old taught him how to swim right a bike catch he had asthma but now he’s in the band in woodwinds. I helped teach the high school kids how to drive.
It is hard to hug her, I have never seen anybody in the extended family hug or never heard the word love. I have heard stories in the past tell Filipino children are abused growing up.
That is my predicament now.
So sorry you’re ensnared in this madness with a sociopath; she is a sociopath. Keep reading and realizing the truth – these are crimes rather than relationships in essence.