The Sociopath Test

The sociopath test is simple.
So are sociopaths.
What they are is limited, specific, and predictable.
We can easily determine if we’ve met one.
We can spot them a zillion miles away
once we become fully aware of the sociopath test.

Is there an accurate sociopath test? You bet there is. The sociopath test is done at home, so to speak. The signs of a sociopath are clear and distinct. Sociopaths – even though you might be calling them “narcissists” – are limited, simplistic, predictable creatures.

Sociopaths Are Simplistic, Limited, and Predictable

They’re each identical in their thinking, so each sociopath does and says nearly the same things to all their prey. You can recognize a sociopath through their simplicity, the predictability of their reactions and actions, and the things they say.

Test for Signs of a Sociopath

We’ve all heard of or seen a sociopath test that is meant to determine if the test taker is a sociopath. I find that incredibly absurd. Any sociopath, every sociopath knows that they are a sociopath. They need not take a test to know that they are a monster.

Being a sociopath comes along with their birth. It’s due to micro-genetic coding that adds up to a brain that isn’t fully formed, or we could say a brain abnormality. Whether they know the word “sociopath” or not, they realize that they are different as soon as they might have any conscious awareness of what’s going on around them as three or four-year-olds.

They know what they are; we need to know as well.

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Are You Dating a Sociopath?

Firstly, let me point out what might not seem obvious. If you’re wondering if the person you’re dating. Or maybe planning to marry, or are married to, has led you to Google “What is a sociopath?”… They just passed the sociopath test. Searching online or elsewhere for answers to why you feel like you feel and why they do what they do is proof that they’re a sociopath. I say this might not seem obvious because a part of the effect of a sociopath is that we make exceptions for them. We rationalize their behavior.

We make sense in our minds as best we can all the things they do and say, even though we’re aware on some level that it doesn’t make sense. Making sense as best you can of what they do isn’t a sign that something is wrong with you.

We can’t *not* do this kind of rationalizing and “making sense” of their nonsense when under the effect and influence of a sociopath. If you’re doing research, if you can, if you can make space for this thought, please do so: Doing research about them is proof that this person you’re wondering about is a sociopath.

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Signs of a Sociopath

Here’s a list of what pathological parasitic predators (sociopaths/monsters) do. You don’t have to have experienced or seen all of these traits in order to “prove” they’re the issue. Trust your gut.

They don’t use your name unless they are mad at you.
They refuse to use condoms.
They try for anal intercourse, seem to “prefer” it, and can insist on it.
Sexually, they withdraw from you if you live together.
They sleep in another room. Or at a different time from you to avoid being in a bed with you.
They make excuses for not sleeping in the same bed with you or being sexual with you.
OR…
They use you as a sex doll. You are compelled or forced to do things that may be painful, humiliating, and not what you want to do.
They take your money.
They use your money but don’t contribute theirs.
Even if they seem to have loads of money, when the books are balanced, it’s you that’s paying the price.
They borrow money from you but don’t pay it back.
You feel like the one doing all the work.
You’re exhausted hiding the life and yours together.
You take care of the things that need to happen to run a household.
Alternately, if they might clean or cook dinner or run errands there’s always more for you to do, more debt, more money for you to bring into the household.
They take your things as their own.
They steal from you and / or your kids.
They keep their phone on them at all times, even in the bathroom.
They don’t often look at you or make eye contact.
They can cry sheets of tears and then suddenly have a totally dry face and no signs of emotional upset.
You’ve been shown those black eyes.

Signs You’ve Met a Sociopath

When we first meet one of these beasts, they do a rapid-fire assessment that comes to them through instinct. They’re checking out what they think they can get from us. Once we seem to be full of what they want: money, access, sex, a respectability-facade-piece, entertainment, whatever it is, they move immediately without thinking about it into nabbing us.

Within the first moments of meeting and certainly, within the first two weeks, you’ve heard the following from them:

They have a family member – or more than one – who doesn’t like them.
That they either love their mother and are exceedingly close to her, or their mother or father was cruel and abusive.
That they are successful and do some kind of work that seems surprising or impressive to you yet, isn’t quite clear as to what it is or how they do this work.
They tell you something promising about their future such as a milestone life event, accomplishment, or money on the horizon.

Our Feelings Are Proof We Met a Sociopath

Meeting a sociopath is unique, that is to say, meeting a sociopath causes specific internal thoughts, sensations, feelings, and even confusion in any normal human – that’s you and me – immediately.

You feel you’ve never met someone so amazing.
You’re mind goes a little fuzzy.
What they say rushes at you or intensely hits and lands in your gut and mind.
You think they are the most attractive, beautiful, amazing-looking person ever.
OR…
You don’t think they’re attractive at all.
You want to see them again almost with a feeling of anxiety or panic that you might not see them.
OR…
You don’t want to see them at all…But can’t stop thinking about them.
When they text or call, your adrenaline shoots through the roof.
You feel compelled to do for them, give to them, please them…And know this is strange.

By now, if you’ve kept in touch, seen them, talked with them: You feel like your life is like a movie. You feel like you’ve met the most amazing person and found your dream future at last.

Unfortunately, at this point, you’re hooked. You’re under their spell. If they persist (and they will) in calling or texting or making dates to see you, you’re in until you can get out and break up with evil.

It Takes As Long As It Takes

Breaking free takes as long as it takes. There’s nothing wrong with you: everything is right with you. They’re the one who is wrong; wrong as a pathological parasitic predator. When you’re ready to take back your life, email me.

Set an appointment for guide recovery coaching with me, as a certified coach who’s been in this same hell and made it out the other side. We’ll resolve every loss, turn the confusion into clarity, and put your feet back on the ground of your real life. – I’m here for you.

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