Bored heartless nomads.
They don’t connect or care,
have no sentimental or nostalgic idea of “home”
so, one place is much like another
and where ever they are isn’t “home”, it’s a hideout.
Sociopaths are bored nomads. Empty souls, empty brains, absent hearts. And no place they truly call “home.”
The part of the brain that registers like, love, care, concern, compassion is – unplugged. It doesn’t operate normally. They’re just kind of blah. They don’t “attach” to anyone, anything, or any place.
No matter how much we might not notice at first, no matter how many promises they make about our life together: for them, “home” is no place, while for us “there’s no place like home.”
Nobodies Home Inside There Aside from Evil
Sociopathic predators pretend to feel things they don’t, such as “love” or “concern” because they know their emptiness is something we can’t accept and it freaks us out.
If we’re freaked out, they need to move on sooner and don’t get as much stuff.
So they fake it to get stuff and to keep that cozy couch to sleep on. Unfortunately, they have an uncanny power of influence and get lots unless we already – fully – know what a sociopath is.
When normal humans take in a moment in life or interact in human exchange, our bodies respond by making a chemical mix that rushes to our bloodstream and brain and animates us in emotional responses of gratitude, empathy, delight, joy, or reverent awe, or an endless combo of sensation.
There is resolution and full restoration.
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Bonding is Normal: It’s Absent in Pathological Predators
This grand cocktail of life forges deeper connections with others around us and to our very selves. In a sociopath this function is absent. They switch emotional responses on and off – sort of. But not really…
It’s that there’s just no one human home. Though a sociopath might say, we feel emotions. Ours is just different. – Well, yeah, that’s the point; they’re the feelings of a monster. Very, very different than ours.
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Sociopaths Have No Emotional Connection
Sociopaths mimic the emotions they see us go through. They don’t feel feelings like we do or understand ours. It’s all bars and tone – or desire and rage in the sociopath’s brain.
We get attached to our home and the simple things that take our breath away, illicit tears, smiles, giggles, or a sigh weigh in as a heavy clunk of next-to-nothingness in the sociopath’s “heart”.
The pride in our home, our lives, our child’s college graduation, first prom, first steps, or our teary-eyed satisfaction at giving the perfect gift to a loved one are experiences a sociopath will never have. Nope. Sociopaths have white noise where love should be.
When We Feel…
- Delight: at our child’s achievements
- Pleasure: in helping someone besides ourselves
- Joy: at a the birth of a new baby
- Compassion: for another’s sorrows
- Satisfaction: in a job well done
A Sociopath Registers Personal Gain…
- Delight: gloating at ensnaring a new victim
- Pleasure: in a well-told lie
- Joy: in scamming a new place to live
- Compassion: there is none for anyone
- Satisfaction: in a smear campaign well done… And otherwise, they’re bored
The Sociopath aka Narcissist Desires Only to Take and Use
A sociopath scum bag’s sole desire is to suck us in, to take, and to use us and all we have and all those around us if possible. They make up lots of “good reasons” to live together. They might say something like, “I need to move by Friday because my roommate stopped paying rent…” – It’s a hint at what they want. They toss out bait hoping we’ll bite out of our ordinary and gorgeous human empathy and compassion and social conditioning in order to – in this case – take over our space.
They’re laser-focused on this. They don’t want to pay rent or share in the bills. They make promises of work they’re getting, money coming in, and they’ll do the dishes later.
Haus-Maus or Man In Pants: It’s all Fraud
Some sociopaths have the persona of man-around-the-house and get bossy while others play Mr. Mom and do laundry, cook, clean, and pick up the kids. This is the way this type of sociopath gets the cheese. Yes, like rats in a lab as they go through life they learn which button to push to get dinner.
I call this errand running, dinner making, kid caring sociopath the haus-maus – or house-mouse. It’s all bait. This is what they hope will hook their room and board. Their shelter from the storms. Storms both outside falling from the sky, and quite likely the storm anger of the last person they messed with who’s now after them.
The Provider
Some others, averse to chores and dirty work, flash cash instead and foot the bill for a bit to secure their place in our home. From the beginning – or by the end – they don’t pay, won’t pay, and get mad if asked to pay. – Be aware there are those who pay big-bucks all throughout keeping us in mani-pedies, vacations, and designer clothes. However, it comes at a price.
A sociopath dirtbag (even if you’re calling them a narcissist) is never the person we think they are until we see the devil in their eyes. Then – and only then, are we seeing who they are. Since no one with a heart wants to live with a devil they try their best to hide it. Their best is not very good.
Con Men Predators Get So Bored and Need Places to Hide
The ironic trap of needing the person they don’t care about pisses them off. Without emotional attachment, pretending to be in love with someone would get old. And bothersome. Their hatred of us begins to show itself.
Sociopaths are bored nomads, their boredom makes it hard to keep up their facades.
They drop the act at any random moment, then shove the mask back in place, drop it, put it up again and it falls once more.
This inconsistency is how we see through them. That’s okay with them. Ultimately, these scum bag inhuman users don’t care about the longevity of a scam as much as they care about taking what they’re after and going free.
Getting What They Want and Getting Away
The getaway is important. And these predators do indeed have many people are after them. Lots of people on their tail. Always.
They’ve got people they owe money to, women with babies they’ve left to support on their own, someone’s husband who wants to beat the living-day-lights out of them, bench warrants, they’ve skipped parole, evaded taxes, jumped debts, stolen cars to ride off in. They’re so, so busy; so busy running in fear.
Changing Location is Essential to Surviving as a Sociopath
And so, sociopaths, con men change geographic locations over and over. Every three to ten months, the predator needs new prey, and often new hunting grounds.
They pack light and leave things behind, as they skip and hop from place to place without their name registered on a lease or posted on a mailbox. The scampiest of these I call the backpackers. – All they have is a dirty backpack, easy to pick up and go.
They hide behind their prey for official things like rental contracts. If we think they “own” a house, a condo, or a boat, but look closely, they mostly don’t own anything, and always there’s more to it than meets the normal human eye.
Where Ever They Are They Are The Same
Whether a sociopath skulks in a low-rent district or a high-rise, through all the lies they’re hard to trace and difficult to pin down.
The sociopath, as a bored nomadic parasitic predator moves on to shake trouble from their tail and stir up glittery resources. They make a get-away to fresh territory and ripe untapped prey. “Want” never leaves them, ever on the search for more money and more fun… otherwise they get so bored.
Boredom and Fear Are Forefront in Their Black Hearts
Boredom isn’t the only reason sociopaths, con men, narcissistic users need to move on down the road. It’s those people after them and those scams that blow up that lead them to a new location. Sociopaths are bored and boring and make terrible, monster, roommates. Who needs ’em?
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The words ‘he’, or “con men”, should be replaced with “he/she” or “con men/women.” I only say this because the only sociopath I know is my daughter. I love her to the ends of the earth, but after 30 years I am just so tired. Seriously, she is 30 years old, but I feel she has had most of the traits since she could focus on my eyes….
I think there is a lot of confusions misinformation and lack of research about sociopaths and psychopaths. I am not well educated on the topic – there seems to be a bit of ambiguity regarding the basic classifications of those who have no regard for others or those who have a very low sensitivity and emotional response to outside stimuli and I think that starts with a lack of research into the topic of human behavior and emotion in the first place. Psychology is a rather new field still.
The sociopath I was with had told me about a movie he saw and how it was a “nice little movie”. It was called “A Winter’s Tale”. I loved it and when I sent him a text saying I couldn’t stop crying at the end he said “why?” He was really curious as to why this movie made me cry. I told him it was because it was nice to know that everyone makes a difference, that we are not just here by chance. He didn’t answer back. I think he just wanted to know why so he could mimic the reaction to someone else and look “normal”.
Yep, pretty much. That’s sociopath skills school.
My abuser M.T. would frequently talk about being bored. I simply thought he had ADHD. Guess I was wrong.
Just described my ex-husband perfectly. Unfortunately we have a daughter. Fortunately the courts granted him absolutely no access due to his violent history. I cut him out completely a year ago after finally realizing what he was. Best decision of my life. My 3 year old will never miss what she doesn’t know, and I thank God every day that he landed himself in prison so that she couldn’t know him before I figured out his scam. God is surely good!!!
EXCELLENT!!!! I’m sooooo happy for your result!!Congratulations! All sociopaths are alike. They are identical and predictable because of their restricted brains which feel no emotions. They’re left with only searing “want” and no conscience so they do anything they want to do to others to get the things they want. They all operate in exactly the same ways. Hopefully we’re revolutionizing the way they’re perceived and bringing awareness so more of their actions are considered crimes from the legal system – and more is understood and recognized for what it is. .
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Thank you, describes the narc in great details, just has had the job many years…the only piece thats different, hes the combo flavor , sick and disturbed.
So sorry for your time with one of these hijackers. Sociopaths are monsters. Some are able to work for a bit of time – usually by attributing the work others do to themselves and a lot of workplace manipulation – or it’s their project or company – these are usually fake or false or completely faulty concepts puffed up by them only to fall apart repeatedly – though they start new projects – one always more grandiose than the next. In reference to the term “narc” in case that’s meant as a Narcissist: Narcissists don’t have issues with inability to work. Narcissists are nasty and unpleasant and self-focused, but not pathological liars who present a fake person to steal people’s lives to support themselves and then destroy the host-victim. With a Sociopath – unless we see proof of everything from a 3rd party go with the assumption whatever they’ve said is a lie.
So true!